I went to breakfast this morning, in the gray mist of an early September morning. It was the perfect day to sit with friends from school: Linda and Laura, Kae and Susan, Lisa and Linda's friend, Deb.
There was lots of news to share as we kick off the new year. Linda's getting ready for Jamie Lee Curtis' visit to our elementary building on Friday. "I hope she brings a lot of Activia," I said, but she's coming to read her new
book. Yogurt, literature, whatever.
Deb has to transfer to three different buildings to teach Art, but the Music teachers can stay put. Apparently, Music is more valuable to the district administrators; the instruments must be harder to move than tempera paint and glitter, construction paper, glue, and racks of scissors.
Laura's brother is getting a divorce, finally, and Susan's son started smoking. Kae's going to be a grandmother, and just what do you call a grandmother in Swedish anyway, because no body wants to be called Grandmother anymore. It's so, I don't know,
aging.
I look over at a booth as I absorb everyone's comments, and there's a woman nibbling on her toast. Alone.
I can't decribe the sorrow I feel for a person who's dining alone. I watched her, as she looked around, not smiling, but not crying, and I wanted to slide into the seat across from her. I wanted to say, "You don't have to eat alone. I see you didn't bring a book (what were you thinking?!) but do you want to talk?"
I didn't, of course. Why would she come out to eat alone if she didn't want to? She could have stood at her kitchen counter waiting for the toast to pop out with the television rebroadcasting all the events of 9/11 behind her. She could have eaten it discreetly on the phone, talking to
someone.
Or, maybe she couldn't. Maybe that's the problem: no one to talk to. No one to smile with. No one from whom to sit across during breakfast on a rainy Saturday morning.
Maybe it shouldn't have, but it broke my heart.